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I just read your post...scanned briefly through the replys. We were given custody of our beautiful niece when she had just turned 3, She is now turning 5. Her mom is a serious addict along with a mental mess, the father is out of the picture. We are not in the loop on the mothers mental status because she is in and out of the mental hospital when the can capture her and no one will give us any information. The State said the baby was HARD to handle! Numerous times I have called the State and said she is gonna hurt herself and their reply was, yes we are aware of how she is. My loving, hugging 11 yr old had been bitten, beaten and everything else you can imagine. She thinks my 13 yr old who doesn't want to deal with her walks on water. I have tried everything I know to show her love, yet she hates me, beats me in the head, bites me, screams at me that I am mean! She has beat me up numerous times with hundred's of witnesses. She has beat up 2 teachers at her school and several children. She has just started seeing her mother 1 time a month and it has gotten worse. I don't want to give up on this child but I am on the verge of a STROKE! Don't get me wrong, she is punished for her behavior.........Timeouts...they don't work! Taking toys away....don't work. Spanking.........don't work! No TV.........don't work. I am exhausted and don't know what to do. We started her on some medication...........NOTHING WORKS....Meds work great for a week or two then it gets worse! When is enough enough? As she beat me to a pulp this evening with my two older girls crying and screaming and trying to stop her, When should I SAY MY FAMILY COMES FIRST! She is about to pull my family apart! However, she can't help it but I can't afford to help her any more! We get no support from the mom or the father. NOT A DIME, NOTHING! Nothing from the State either! However when she wakes in the morning she is going to be full of hugs and kisses and lots of I love you, till she does not get her way. I am afraid I will regret it either way I go! Forgot to mention we were the only family members who were willing to take her because NO ONE wanted to deal with the mom......Not even MOM'S parents! But now that we have her, all they do is hound us and blame the dad...UGGH!!! We had put that side of the family (dad/inlaws/parents/everyone) out of our lives because it was not worth the stress. It had been 5 years since we even spoke with that side of the family. However, we as a family decided to take this baby in because she can't help who her parents are. We are a Christian family and we are all struggling with what to do next! Going to bed black and blue tonight. Praying that I wake in the morning! Any help or suggestions are greatly appreciated!!!!